It is true that success can be most easily achieved by making friends with the right people. If you can earn the trust of those in high positions, or even those who know people in high positions, you can quickly find yourself occupying a high position. When you use good social skills, whatever needs come up in the course of life, you can find the best possible help for meeting those needs.
So empowering yourself can simply be a matter of finding and forming relationships with a variety of people who have a variety of powers. You can achieve the things you want to achieve, while becoming a more socially adjusted individual. So how do you get started on the path to social power?
1. Be Honest
Some with naturally overwhelming social skills can get by with putting on disingenuous fronts. For the rest of us, forming social bonds requires learning to be truly honest about who you are and taking an honest interest in others. Hypocrites are social outcasts.
2. Learn to Listen
It is interesting that people tend to be more trusting of those with whom they've shared things about themselves than they are of those of whom they know much. So sit and listen. If you speak, do so only to receive more information from the speaker. Use your eyes to convey your interest.
3. Laugh Loudly
Laughing may catch people off guard at first, but light hearted people do better socially. You don't have to laugh at everything, just jokes.
4. Don't Be a Pushover
In the course of this experience you must also convey a powerful sense of self. If you value self, so will others. Carry yourself as worthy of respect.
5. Do Kind Things
Go out of your way to do kind things, particularly the small kind things. Old-fashioned politeness is a lost art that can bring with it great social rewards.
6. Don't Lose Touch
It was once difficult to keep in touch with old friends. Only the most socially motivated among us could succeed at this. Now days, there is so much social networking stuff on the Internet that it is more difficult to lose contact with people. Just remember to take the time to send a note or say hello to everyone now and then.
7. Portray a Positive Personality
If you're a grouch, you don't do anything but bring people down. People are attracted to those who make them feel good.
8. Display Social Confidence
Start encounters with a smile. Don't wait for people to come to you. Go introduce yourself to them. This shows both confidence and humility at the same time.
9. Have Emotional Control
You don't have to react to your anger. You don't have to throw fits. Be the calm person in a room. Use your anger to help you do productive things. People are not attracted to people with unpredictable or violent mood swings.
10. Stay Focused on Your Relationships
It is not simply enough to form a relationship. You must actively take steps help them grow. Take time for people. Make them feel important. Show each person that they matter to you and that you're there for them in times of need. As a result, they'll want to be there for you.
Barbora Knobova is a humorist, columnist and Chiquenist. An internationally published author, she is on the mission to bring Fantastic Fearless Feminine Fun into women's lives. She is enthusiastic about showing her Chique Women Soulmates how to step into their power and live with gusto. Do you want to discover (and shatter) five toxic myths that ruin your life, your mood and your appetite? Find out more about the FREE and dangerously hilarious Chique Chick's Survival E-Course at: http://www.chiquenist.com/
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